No wonder you're in shock. Sounds like he has been bottling up tension and worries from what you have said. Sad that often the trigger to let all that out can be an apparently innocent remark. When we are under extreme stress none of us behave in a rational way So maybe in his mind he has turned his fears about his struggle at work into a lack of ability to give you what you wnat in your marriage too (holidays). The way I see it when you can't do one important thing in your life right then it just adds to your problem when someone appears to be asking the impossible. I know you weren't, I'm just trying to see the situation.

Was this really a shock though? When I told my ex-husband I no longer wanted to be with him his ego was hurt, but he must have been relieved to be shot of me. It was two completely different people arguing all the time and amking each others lives a misery. This isn't what you are describing, so maybe there is a problem with whats really being communicated at teh moment. If there is you'll need an intermediary to help you through. I would leave for a few days though as it coudl ignite. He is probably feeling just as shocked by his actions.

All the best through this
Bobo