Thank you for your lovely replies, I don't feel quite so alone. However i would love to sit and have a glass of wine and a chat but he wont talk about it or give me the time to talk to him as he is always so bloody busy with work etc.

We both work its not really money worries, and we have savings that was my first thought this morning so i checked and we are o.k.

Then i thought about an affair however it doesn't feel like it to me and no denial here it just doesn't seem likely.

He would drown me in the bath if i ran it ( not being literal), so not doing that one.

I think i will just let it lie when he comes home tonight.

Thanks again.