Hi Daisy, I know you said that you can't stand up for yourself, but sometimes the thought of something is far worse than the reality. I bet if you think back through your life you'll be able to come up with examples of times/situations where you were dreading having to do something and then afterwards thought actually, that wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. So, next time, just say, no, I've done my share of the hard work, it's about time you did x, y and z. Bet they'll be so gobsmacked they'll just shuffle away.

Not to take from Daisy's thread, but the bosses have it bad in situations like this. We suspended and later after investigation fired an employee because of threatening behaviour. He has now filed to go to industrial tribunal - not looking forward to it.

PS Daisy, just imagine all of us behind you when you say no - that'll give you some mental back-up.