You say you have never known such heartbreak and that, "when you have a child you rip out your heart and let it walk free"!! That's powerful stuff!! This can only mean that you are desperately sad and your heart is aching. You also say that you wonder if your OH understands about unconditional love and that Mitch and your OH are very different people.... You don't give much away, but I wonder if you are getting the support you need from your husband. It sounds as if Mitch has not really had a father figure in his life. His bio father left when he was young and by the sound of it your second husband has not been able to give Mitch the unconditional paternal love that he needs. What about your daughter? You have already said that things in your home got to the point where it was not a good environment for a 10 yr old girl. Does Mitch feel pushed out I wonder?

Perhaps you feel torn between your son and your husband? Perhaps you want Mitch to come home but you fear you may not get the support you need from your husband.

So much is going on here and yet you say so little about your feelings! You may be a psychologist, but you are first and foremost a mother!! After all, we all find it much easier to offer advice on someone elses problems!! It's amazing how much clearer things are when we are not emotionally involved!!

I hope I haven't spoken out of turn by raising certain questions. The advice and support is always available on the here if you need it. But if you just want to offload as many people do, you've found a great place to do it!