Believe it or not, I am a non-practising psychologist! I have no idea what to do about Mitch and I have never known such heartbreak! He is from my first marriage. Bio father not much chop (or we'd still be married) Absent from Mitch's life except when he needed him as a fashion accessory! Mitch was diagnosed with ADHD, at around 11, which is pretty late because I didnt believe it existed. I read all the research available in English before we medicated him. I still dont know if it was the right thing to do. My OH is a decent man with loads of integrity, he was adopted so before we had our daughter, I wonder if he knew about unconditional love. Studying psychology has given me so many things to stress about. He has been a great dad to Mitch but they are very different people. Unfortunately Mitch is a total airhead like me!
So Mitch discovered sex at around 15 so I tried to give him a safe environment etc.,wacky weed- who knows? I did that too when I was younger. However, studies have shown an alarming correlation between bipolar disorder and schizophrenia and marijuana! So we just did what we could to cope but things in our home got to the point where it was not a good environment for a 10 yr old girl. One can only love and support so much! We gave him an ultimatum (after coming home from hols to vomit stained walls etc) that he clean up his act or move out. It was a bluff! His mate went to his family and told them that M had been thrown out of home & without referring to us they took him in. They are really nice people but hell, they could have been peodophiles! The evil girlfriend, who was playing up with his other best mate (do they need to do that at 17) also figures in this sorry tale, but thankfully she has left the scene. So every week or so I phone him or text him telling him that we love him and miss him and that he is always welcome back- if he adheres to our rules!
It really is true! When you have a child, you rip out your heart and let it walk free!
I hope I didnt go on for too long, but that was very therapeutic- it is also fairly abridged!