Hi barb - I've just caught up on this thread, I've been wondering how your friend is doing. It's amazing that her family are able to take some comfort in the fact that she's where she wants to be. You are a very good friend and I hope that your sister is able to see you for who you are and not let old family stuff get in the way. I hope her letter to you is healing. If it's not though please remember that sometimes that other person just can't see beyond themselves. I hope you get the letter soon. x