Thanks for messages everybody, I was thinking may be I'm boring you all out there! But each time I post an update I do get such nice feedbacks.
My sister visited today and no tears and she was actually sat with another resident today. Mum doesn't do sitting down much as the moment! So another good sign. I am desperately looking for them.
In answer to your questions, yes they have activities every weekday loads of different things from tea dances to Ladies afternoon. She goes swimming (they employ a lifeguard) to meet them, visits to cafe, parks etc. Trouble is when she sees the home after a trip she refuses to go back in. They have such patience, they now call up for support as soon as the get near.
They have an open day in July, I'm pushing a resident in the wheelchair race. How about all of you joining me !!!!
Only joking, I want to win.

Burdie