Sorry about this everyone, but I really need to offload and this seems a safe place.
As I've said before, I'm going through a separation. It'll be ten months since he left and in that time I've found a job (after not working for twenty years) so that I can pay all the household bills. The only thing I can't pay is the mortgage - his father's doing that as his business is on it's last legs.
The problem at the moment is that my youngest doesn't really want to see his father every single week. He would rather see him once a fortnight. I think this is perfectly okay and don't see a problem with it.
Unfortunately, the ex got extremely annoyed when we discussed it last night and said that I should "forcefully" encourage the three kids to see him regularly. The kids are 19,17 and nearly 14. Does anyone know exactly how to "forcefully" encourage someone to do something they don't want to do? No? Me neither.  I was then told he was "going to fight me for every penny of the equity" as I apparently want far more than I'm entitled to and as for maintenance, I apparently only want that to keep me in the lifestyle to which I've become accustomed. He has not, btw, paid a penny piece since he left.
So - my lifestyle. Let's see - don't have a car (he took it off me), so I borrow the daughters; can't afford a holiday (but he's spent three weeks in Cornwall and is going for another three weeks fairly soon. He also has a large powerboat that he blats around in). I shop for food in a cheaper supermarket, and haven't bought any new clothes in, oh, I don't know, a long, long time.
Once I would have dissoved into tears - now I'm just furiously angry. I'm going to see my solicitor in a couple of weeks and get the divorce started. I'm ending this once and for all.
Does anyone have a recommendations for a cheap loan to pay for a divorce? My solicitor isn't Legal Aid, unfortunately.
Phew! Deep breath. Feel better now. 
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