Hi, My SIL lives in the USA divorced with her two sons both in their early 20s. The eldest is adopted in the UK before she moved out there some 15 years ago. She then fell pregnant with the second boy. When she was with her husband, neither of them could decide how to raise the boys ,always arguing in front of them one would discipine the other countermand etc. They divorced and now the second boy , their own, has turned into the young man from hell. He seriously assaulted her and he spent 12 months in prison in the US. He is back with her after she refused to allow him to live in a bail hostel . He now steals from her and other relatives and generally drives others away with his drugs and alcohol. She has written a sad letter to my OH , her brother stating that her son has ruined her life and she doesn't know what to do with him anymore. She is angling to come over and see us if we pay for their fares as she can't afford them. The problem is that we are happy to see her but do not want to see our nephew and we certainly don't want to have him in the house. Should we say that they can come to a hotel? Last time they came many years ago, they run up a huge telephone bill to the US which we ended up footing.
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