Mrsbell12
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Reged: 06/10/2008
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Any ideas? My daughter (who is 23 ) has been with her boyfriend for 18 months, we have no problems with him but his family who live close by and used to be very friendly towards us now refuse to speak, this whole situation has a very negotive effect on our family, we live in a very small rural community and it makes it very embarassing for every one concerned. Any similar experiances or ideas? 
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chilla
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Reged: 05/09/2008
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Well there must be some reason and if you genuinely don't have a clue, I'd just muster courage and say you've noticed that they don't talk to you and can you ask what the problem is. Not a great conversation to have but it solves the problem and you might find there's been some total misunderstanding.
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Sella_Vee
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Reged: 03/04/2008
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Have you asked the boyfriend, or your daughter, if you've done anything to offend them?
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dec
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Reged: 29/01/2008
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Hi Mrsbell,
Welcome to the Forum.
Are they friendly towards you daughter or are they giving her the same treatment? Perhaps they don't want their son to be in a serious relationship too soon? Odd way of acting though if that is the case.
The other thought that springs to mind is,is it possible your daughter may have voiced negative comments about them to her boyfriend and he has repeated them to his family.This happened to me when I was in a previous relationship.I was mortified to know that a comment I'd made in confidence was passed on to his family.
I agree with Sella Vee that the best way to find out what's wrong is to ask your daughter if she has any insight into the situation.
Good luck with it as it must feel very uncomfortable for you.
Dec
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Alakazsam
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Reged: 12/09/2008
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hi there
uncomfortable situation, but I agree with all above, you need to ask some direct questions first of your daughter and see if anything comes from it, you can only go forward from there. Chances are she may not stay with him forever but for the duration of their relationship you dont want any hardfeelings...
good luck
Kaz
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Snowy1066
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Reged: 08/07/2008
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Loc: Southeast
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Hi Mrs bell, welcome.
As you live in a small village, do you think a piece of gossip could have got back to them, maybe spread by someone you've spoken to.
I agree that just going along and having it out may be the only option, in a very refined quiet diplomatic sort of way ofcourse. It may just be a small thing, that has snowballed. Worth a try.
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