Moco
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Reged: 28/03/2007
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When my son went off to Liverpool 8 years ago he had the telephone number of some distant friends who lived there for an emergency, he never needed it (there was however one instance when I would have liked him to). It crossed my mind with many of you in the same position we could be contacts for each others kids if they ever needed anything. Anyone with their bairn coming up to Newcastle is welcome to PM me
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Maureen
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Arty
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Reged: 12/03/2008
Posts: 117
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My daughter is a Music post grad. at Bristol, anyone needing a contact there,or any advice about it generally let me know. She is a Hall Tutor this year.
Also have a sensible second year student at Cambridge so the same applies there.
I am here for anyone attending Queens University Belfast.
Joan.
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hatty
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Reged: 05/11/2006
Posts: 241
Loc: Cambridgeshire
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my son is going to Southampton University next weekend. It does seem strange. I is quite a long way away and I haven't any close relatives nearby.
He is a sensible lad but us mums always worry don't we.
I am sure I will cry on the way home. I must think of it as a wonderful opportunity for him and stay positive.
Hatty
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Sue63
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Reged: 16/09/2008
Posts: 11
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Hatty my eldest son left for uni yesterday and it was hard coming home to a quiet house. it's been great to have reassurance though on this forum from mums who have been through this before. Our kids are probably having a wonderful time. I find transitions really hard and loosing that hands on mother role is difficult. Take care x
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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Loc: South London
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Just to say I know it is hard, but believe me when you next see your s or d and they are full of news about their course, new friend, uni life in general you will feel so happy and proud.
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In your journey through life, take what works for you and let the rest go. Susan Jeffers
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rcey
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Reged: 28/05/2008
Posts: 681
Loc: Surrey
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Mine just gone back for her second year. The one piece of advice that I want to share and wish that someone had mentioned it to me was:
Do not under estimate the "loss" that siblings feel - I only have 2 daughters and when ED went, I totally under estimated how lost and loney the other one became. On the surface she was all jokey about how she would take over her sisters room, life, clothes etc., but her sense of loss was so intense that she had a little meltdown about 3 months later and it took ages for her to get over it. Nuture them with kid gloves - I will certainly be looking out for it this time.
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suzie88
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Reged: 02/09/2008
Posts: 468
Loc: Essex
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Hi Hatty,
Lucky boy, my son wants to go to Southampton uni next year. What is yours going to study?
My daughter is starting her second year at Sheffield and it was like my arm had been wrenched off when she left.You do get through it though, we keep in touch by email, texts etc and she comes home every 2-3months. Its a good idea to start a new hobby when they leave, to help occupy yourself.
Its a new lease of life for you too.
Suzie
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Sue63
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Reged: 16/09/2008
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It's been great to share feelings through this forum 
Thank you rcey for your advice on siblings, I have been keeping a close eye on my younger son as he was so close to his brother who left for uni on Saturday. He too wanted to swap rooms but it hasn't been mentioned again! it's only been a few days though. We have been giving him more attention and not leaving him alone too much, probably driving him mad!
I have been keeping busy and that helps too!
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dbverycherry
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Reged: 24/02/2007
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Loc: Kent UK
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Like Foxie says I feel happy and proud of son and daughter off at university but I do feel, if I am honest, a tiny bit left out and dare I say jealous 
 I had three years at catering college but I still lived at home and think I missed the whole halls /university thing some how. Does anyone else feel a little like me on this?
Did my last big food shop today and before they are both back and away from home at university.
Then with all the spare time and half the number of people in the house what shall I do ladies?
dbverycherry
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jac4man
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Reged: 07/01/2008
Posts: 11
Loc: Cambridge
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I missed out on the whole uni thing, when I left school only the really clever ones went on to uni, the rest of us went to the local polytechnic to do shorthand/typing, still it has served me well over the years, I have been a medical secretary now for 23 years and it has been a very interesting careet choice! I must admit that like dbverycherry I do feel a little jealous at the missed opportunities - being able to travel etc. however I am extremely proud of the way my children have turned out and wouldn't change a thing but now I need to find a new interest/hobby. Any ideas gratefully received!??
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dbverycherry
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Reged: 24/02/2007
Posts: 3780
Loc: Kent UK
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Hi and hello there Jackie.
 Ladies that lunch is the first thing that springs to my mind or travelling while we can and able to. How about it shall we meet up? 
How about starting a W&H ladies travel club?
There are many places I havent visited that are still in the UK. I personally won't be able to afford to go away far and for more than a few days at a time until our two kids have completed their uni degrees which will be in 2011 and all being well!!
Son took a year out at 19 and daughter couldn't make her mind up as to what course to do so effectively she did an extra foundation year at London College of Fashion this Year.
dbverycherry
Edited by dbverycherry (23/09/2008 15:53)
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suzie88
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Reged: 02/09/2008
Posts: 468
Loc: Essex
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After my daughter left I started an allotment.Not possible for everyone I know but I live in a flat.Its been very successful, I grow mostly fruit and veg but have a few flowers too and the piece de resistance, a compost heap.
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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Loc: South London
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Hi jac4man and CherryBerry
I didn't go to uni either, just off to college and secretarial qualifications and off to work. Still these qualifications have stood me in good stead (as my mum said they would!). I would just liked the opportunity to study at a deeper level, still once I retire I would consider doing an OU course. One of my friends is studying an MA as an external student. Her supervisor is a Benedictine monk! There is hope for us all in future though.
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In your journey through life, take what works for you and let the rest go. Susan Jeffers
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Gemini
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Reged: 10/03/2008
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What a good idea Moco! And rcy how true. One of my daughters has just started Leeds Met and the other daughter is in her final year at Northampton and helps out there as a person who goes round checking on the students giving advice and checking for noise etc. If anybody can help at either that would be great or if any of your childrenare at any of these unis then I'm sure either daughter would be only too pleased to help if needed or be a friend to them if it helps especially at Northampton.
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sharond
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Reged: 10/07/2008
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Hello this is my first time on  the forum and i have just been reading post from ladies who have just sent their son/daughter of to uni! I have just sent my son off to the university of Birmingham and i feel so depressed and lonely! even though i still have my youngest son and husband at home. I like other mother's are really proud of my son's achievements and i am really happy he is doing what he wants to do, but that does not stop me from feeling so empty and low without him. I must admit it has given me some comfort that i am not alone feeling like this. Thank you woman and home readers.
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suzie88
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Reged: 02/09/2008
Posts: 468
Loc: Essex
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Hi all
Just wanted to mention insurance, you can usually cover your child at uni under your home contents policy.Its not usually a problem the first year in halls but my daughter moved into a shared house with friends her second year and yesterday they were burgled and all the laptops stolen.
I was quite impressed that they called the landlord to board up the broken window and the police straight away before calling me with the bad news.
Suzie
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UKANGEL
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Reged: 18/12/2007
Posts: 13
Loc: Swindon ,uk
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Just found this thread after posting on another part of the forum. Took my daughter off to Bristol on Sunday and feel absolutley lost now. As someone said, I feel like I've lost a limb!
I'm in the Swindon area so if anyone fancies a coffee anytime to share our woes do let me know!
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