scootergran
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Reged: 10/07/2008
Posts: 10
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Just wondering if anyone else is married to an older man? me and the OH have bene married over 30 yrs, we were together before we were married, he is 20 yrs older, we have 2 grown girls and he has children from previous marriage.........what I am wondering is...would you do it again if you had known then what you know now, (big age gap, different gerneration etc)
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dbverycherry
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Reged: 24/02/2007
Posts: 3782
Loc: Kent UK
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Hi scootergran
Love the name by the way.
Are you really a scooter owning gran?
My OH is 7 years older than me and has just turned 50
My mum remarried a couple of years back and her OH was over 21 years older.
 I know I would do it all again and I am sure my mum would as we don't think when one is in love that age counts or matters.
dbverycherry
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TFG
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Reged: 10/10/2007
Posts: 1104
Loc: Milton Keynes
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sorry no I have no experience of this always dated guys my own age and married one the same age,now have a BF 4 years younger but I think that is a small gap me being childest at the best of times
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LizzyF
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Reged: 23/01/2008
Posts: 88
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scootergran, I have a girlfriend who married a man 20 years older than herself. They have been married for around 28 years, had 4 kids and are very happy. Although early on I considered her husband as an "old man" but we've all caught up now (nearly).
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scootergran
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Reged: 10/07/2008
Posts: 10
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Hi all!! thanks for views...yes dbverycherrt lol I am a really a scooter gran lol.. a lovely little machine a Piaggio 125 fly, I love it!!!! (get a few nods from the big bikers) lol...still got my L plates on and hoping take my test soon....although I have just found out that I have to take my "theory & hazzard perception test and pass both parts before I can take my practical test (and this is after 30 yrs of driving a car)!! AND! I also had to take a CBT (compulsory basic training) before I as allowed out onto the roads!! oh!!! my gosh! it took me hours to master the figure of eight.. 
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tigertog
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Reged: 24/01/2008
Posts: 401
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What happened to the quick ride around the block that I did to pass my test in the late 70's,early 80's?????? The bike was so clapped out it kept stalling and the examiner laughed at my pathetic attempts with the sign recognition book!!!
How times have changed! I guess it's for the best for safety reasons.
With the petrol price rising the way it is we were only just thinking today of returning to 2 wheels ourselves!!
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SueatLochLomond
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Reged: 05/07/2008
Posts: 13
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Hi Scootergran (brilliant name by the way)
Don't know how much 'much older' is, but my husband is 12 years older than me and we've been together for 28 years, married for 24 years.
Would I do it again? Yes I would.
We've had our ups and downs but he's my best friend and I wouldn't swap him.
I've just had my 49th birthday (yesterday) and I confess I'm now starting to think about the next 20 years (hopefully) and getting him fit and well enough so he's around a lot longer!
Probably sounds a little pathetic, but don't like the thought of ending up on my own in older age, which of course you have to think about when you marry an older man!
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scootergran
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Reged: 10/07/2008
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Glad to see others who have stayed together despite the big age gap.....me? well! no im'e afraid I personaly wouldn't do it again.
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issi
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Reged: 30/09/2007
Posts: 3277
Loc: Surrey
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I had to have a drink with an engaged couple. He was a very attractive 56-year old and she was a sweet, slightly old-fashioned 24-year old. The problem is, as I am the same age as the man but the same sex as the woman I feel I can see both sides. She thinks he is someone to admire and look up to. What I noticed, after only 20 minutes, was that he is mean; he has a grown up family still very much in his, not her, life; he thinks about sex much more than she seemed to realise. At her age she thinks he really wants her for her mind. What will happen when she wants a baby? I felt like screaming to her "run! run like the wind!"
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Ziggy
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Reged: 17/08/2008
Posts: 12
Loc: South Devon
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Hi Scooter gran
I am married to a man 25 years older than me - I was only 25 when we met and am now 43. We have 2 young children 3 & 7 which is tiring for my husband. He has aged so much in the last 5 years - he is now nearly 67. He goes to bed early and his hobby is moaning and going to the doctors. He is not the man I married and i would definitely not do it again. However (theres always a however!) he is a wonderful dad and has so much time for my sons so i don`t regret it. I am still young however and wonder what the future holds for us - i yearn for the man he used to be. Its not his fault he is ill alot i know but it doesn`t make life easy - wonder if there is anyone else out there who has this situation and is a similar age to me?
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jan58
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Reged: 22/08/2008
Posts: 2
Loc: Huddersfield, West Yorkshie
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hi there sue
just read your blog. I'm married to a guy 12 years older than me, celebrated our silver wedding last year. We have two children and he has two from his first marriage. He's 62 now and still very active. Makes me wonder what we'll be like in another 10 years time, hopefully compas mentas with the same daft sense of humour. He also has five grandchildren!!!! Wouldn't change anything.
Jan West yorkshire.
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bbbird
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Reged: 29/07/2008
Posts: 16
Loc: West Sussex
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Yes Ziggy I can totally relate to your story. My OH is 22 years older than me. We met when I was 21 and have now been together for 32 years. We have two grown up children and an adorable granddaughter and my OH also has two kids in their 40's. Unfortunately he was struck down with rhuematoid arthritis at 59 just when he retired and has since suffered really badly and tried loads of different medications. He has good days and bad days but really cant do much as even walking is painful. Its very difficult sometimes as I am bursting with energy and dying to try lots of new things. I really feel for him and love him to bits and cant imagine life without him but like you, do long for the old days when we had so much fun.
Still we are so lucky to have lovely husbands arent we. Keep smiling and do PM me if you ever want a moan, I will definitely understand! 
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