Leanne
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Reged: 09/08/2007
Posts: 18
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My sister has had a lot of problems due to her being bullied when she was at school. Shes 34 now so it was a long time ago and she has had other depression problems for years. Shes such a pretty thing and reminds me of Mo in Eastenders (heart of gold). She has never had luck with friends and i have suggested things over the years but because my mum and dad found things too stressful they sugguested they let me do things there way. But my mum and dad are nearly 60 and just cant cope. She has got better and i have suggested maybe life coaching but i really want her to have someone who could meet up for a coffee, go to the cinema girlie things and we would pay for this service. I know its quite sad but i feel she is wasting her life just sitting at home that if it means paying someone and it gives her that break then money is no object. I dont want to advertise for this as i dont know these people i am interviewing. Can anyone suggest maybe a safe route for me to try. Any advise is appreciated. Thanks Im new to these forums so be gentle!!
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PLASMO
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Reged: 13/03/2008
Posts: 4782
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Leanne,
What a kind and caring sister you seem to be.
I have got no experience in this field at all as to who could help you etc, but there are so many ladies on this forum who are much more qualified and Im sure will advise you in the right direction.
I do hope you manage to get some help and I wish you luck.
Plasmo x
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Leanne
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Reged: 09/08/2007
Posts: 18
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Thanks Plasmo. Twice in one day i am flattered! cant think of the other word i wanted to use.
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Sha
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Reged: 02/08/2008
Posts: 35
Loc: West Sussex
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Hi Leanne
I have not heard of anything that fits your requirements - but hopefully somebody else on the forum can advise you.
You say that you have suggested various things so assume you have suggested all of the obvious ways to make new friends like clubs, evening classes etc? I know it sounds a bit corny but these really can be great ways to meet new people and you will have at least one thing in common from the start.
Have you discussed this with your sister and is she up for the idea of a paid companion? I just feel that there are so many nice people out there who would be glad to spend time with your sister without expecting any payment in return except for friendship. If your sister suffers from depression she might benefit from somebody who has experienced it too either personally or through a close friend or relative - so maybe one of the mental health charities might be able to advise you on some kind of buddy or mentoring scheme?
I went to my first W&H supper club last week and it was really lovely - a great way to meet new people. Would your sister be interested in something like that? As you are a forum member you could easily suggest it.
I really hope that you get some ideas to tackle this problem but your sister is very fortunate to have such a caring sister so just by caring you will be making a huge difference.
Good luck to you both
Sha
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nowcemsi
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Reged: 24/06/2008
Posts: 273
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wellmy daughter is isolated has no friends of her own age
and due to bullying has trust issues. So I forced her to volunteer (local cancer research) which really brought her out of herself and she has made lots of friends, sadly ladies in their late 50s but nevertheless she is invited to barbecues and the like periodically! she also has an evening job ....... but I like you, have thought of paying for someone to be her bestfriend which is WRONG and you cant do that! so I am praying that she finds a pen friend or something like that of a similar age (22)
we live in a rural area as well which doesnt help
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Carey
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Reged: 03/06/2008
Posts: 115
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Hi Leanne
Could you get her to join the forum? If she doesn't have internet access at home local libraries give free access. Perhaps she could start by reading the posts and then join in when she feels able? She could then perhaps try a walk or supper club, after all we are all in the situation of wanting to make new friends so I am sure everyone would be kind and caring and make her feel welcome.
Whatever you think best hope it goes well
Carey
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Leanne
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Reged: 09/08/2007
Posts: 18
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Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. You have given me a few ideas of where to start and maybe 6 months time i could put a new post on how well she doing. Thanks alot.
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